Performance versus pleasure

Performance-focused sex vs. pleasure-focused sex Most often when people have sex, they have what is known as goal-orientated or performance-focused sex. This sort of sex places the emphasis of the experience on the outcome, the goal or the performance. This can...
He says, She says… Sexual Differences ~ Women

He says, She says… Sexual Differences ~ Women

I was so thrilled to hear such positive feedback from people about my last post on understanding men in the bedroom (read it here), and I’ve been trying to find a moment in between travelling, conferences and other work to write part two – about women. I finally...

He says, She says… Sexual Differences ~ Men

More often than not, you’ll over hear women saying to each other “I just don’t get him,” or perhaps you’ve heard a man say “she always wants to cuddle and I just want to sleep!” Either way, when it comes to understanding the differences between the sexes, it seems...

How porn is not all you think it is…

I enjoy watching porn, and I am not afraid to admit that. Growing up it was never deemed a negative activity and I never feel ashamed of searching for something to watch. However, I am aware that this is most certainly not the case for most people, especially women....

Gushing about Female Ejaculation ~ Part Two

Earlier in the week I posted about female ejaculation – what it is, how it happens and who it happens to. Here you’ll find a short post about how to try it: So can I teach myself to do it? First and foremost, go to the bathroom before (and after) sex. Not...