It can be really daunting when you first decide to explore the world of sex toys. Questions such as, “What does that do? How does that work? Where do I put that?” are some that I often hear. Toys don’t have to be intimidating and can be a really fun addition to your sexual experience. Knowing a bit about what you’d like to try can help narrow your choices down, but also having some idea of what you and your partner are comfortable with is as important. I always recommend starting off with something small to see how you enjoy it, before moving on to more adva1nced toys. We’ve all got to start somewhere, and so use this guide below to find something that’s a good starting point for you.
Why not try the: Ignition 10 Speed Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator | Rocks Off
The perfect entry-level sex toy for her is something like a bullet vibe, which is used externally to stimulate her clitoris or as a mini-massagers on our erogenous zones (that’s certain areas on our bodies that are heightened to sexual stimulation). This nifty little pocket vibe will bring her a whole range of pleasures, as the clitoris is the only organ in the human body dedicated to sexual pleasure. Use it alone or with your partner to add some much needed clitoral stimulation during sexual intercourse. It’s USB rechargeable and really discreet, so it can literally be taken anywhere and used whenever sexual urges come up!
Why not try the:Lyla 2 Remote-Controlled 6 Vibration Bullet | LELO
Taking the bullet vibe to the next level for those beginners who are slightly more adventurous, this cute little vibe is perfect for those couples who are a bit naughtier. She can use the vibe by her inserting it into herself or by the couple stimulating her clitoris while her partner controls the sensations she feels, from up to 12m away. This vibe is super quiet, so she could even wear it while her partner has the remote, which is controlled by movement rather than simply pushing buttons! It’s a lot more fun than the standard remote control vibes, and is great for the couple starting out with sex toys.
Product 3: Luna Interchangeable Weighted Kegel Balls (Classic) | LELO
Our ‘Kegel’ muscles (pelvic floor muscles) are imperative in helping us function sexually. Stronger muscles mean better sensation and more intense orgasm, and these Luna Balls are specifically designed for women who may be struggling to strengthen their pelvic floor. The two different sets of weighted balls mean that you can train your muscles to be stronger than ever before, and therefore experience better sensation during sex and even better orgasms. Using some water or silicone-based lubricant, slip the balls into your vagina and walk around doing your day-to-day chores. After about 30 minutes, take them out and clean them properly. Try to use them once a day and note the difference in your sexual experience after a month!
Why not try the: Romeo Rabbit Vibrator – Minds of Love
One of the ‘original’ sex toys, and a great toy for beginners, the Rabbit has been around for many years and has been reproduced in many forms, but ultimately it’s actions are the same: To bring her pleasurable vibrations in the places that are the most enjoyable; inside her vagina and externally on her clitoris. This toy will make her feel things in all the right places, and again could be use alone during self-pleasure, or with a partner to add some fun to the experience. The reason the rabbit has been so popular for so many years is because of it hitting all the right spots. It’s a great “first-timers” toy!
Why not try the: Flight Instructor™ Male Masturbator – Fleshlight
Another toy that’s been around for ages and has been developed and improved over the years, the Fleshlight products are designed with men only in mind. These great masturbators help mimmick the sensations of a woman’s vagina, so add some lubricant and he can use it to stimulate himself again and again. This is also a great first time toy for any man who struggles with climaxing too quickly, and he can use it to train himself in controlling this orgasm.
Why not try the: Principles of Lust Romantic Couples Kit | Fifty Shades Darker
With the explosion of the Fifty Shades of Grey books and movies, of course there had to be sex toys to come out of it too. I’ve often had clients ask me about Fifty Shades of Grey, saying that they find it a turn on but don’t know where to start. So this little kit is the perfect beginner’s set for those wanting to experiment with some bondage and the like… Start slow, communicate how it’s working for you with your partner, and build up to more kinky sexual experiences as you go. If you’re not comfortable with something, gently let your partner know and offer an alternative for them to try. Remember communicating is key!
Why not try the: Stretchy Penis Rings – Set of 3 – Malesation
If you’re a man who has struggled to maintain an erection once sex gets going (likely due to performance anxiety), then the Malestation penis rings can help you get the erection you’re after. They work by constricting blood flow to and from the penis, so once he’s got the erection, he can place a ring at the base of his penis. It should fit snuggly and feel a little tight. This little toy will help him maintain his erection and be hard for longer than usual! Just don’t leave it on for more than 20-30 minutes.
Why not try the: Woman Sensitive Body glide & Lubricant | Pjur or Analyse Me Relaxing Anal Glide – Pjur
This may not seem like a sex toy, but lubricant is one of the most important things you can use to make sex more exciting and pleasurable. In my field, the term ‘wetter is better’ is said in sincerity. If you’re keen to try anal, lubricant is also an absolute must, and even sometimes when you’re not feeling up for sex but have it anyway, lubricant for a woman can help make things feel sexier and more enjoyable. Lubricants make using sex toys much more enjoyable as well, and make things feel more natural all round. If you’re really new to the world of sex toys, potions and lotions, lubricant is the best place to start.
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