In June, we celebrate Father’s day, and several countries celebrate it as Men’s Health month. So there isn’t a better time to write a post about how to please your baby-daddy, and give him a blow job to blow his mind. If you’re not into this sort of thing or find it degrading, stop reading now. This article is for those individuals, both men and women, who enjoy giving and/or receiving ‘head’, and do so in a safe and consensual manner.

Some research I read recently suggested that men would rather go down on a woman than receive a blowjob. Most men I suggested this to laughed and sneered at how silly that sounded, but some men agreed that on some level it could be the case. Sure, men love going down on women (post coming soon), but generally, what man would say no to a blow job?! Apparently, only a bad one, however, a good blowjob is one of the easiest ways to tease and entice your guy. It’s a great alternative or addition to foreplay and sex, can happen almost anywhere (the shower, couch or kitchen… use your imagination, although while driving is highly dangerous), and usually requires much less time.

It’s all in the technique

Contrary to what porn shows you, giving a man a blow job is not as simple as bobbing your head up and down like a porn star. Blow jobs actually do require some technique, as well as variation! It’s not called a Blow JOB for nothing. For a guy, the sensation coupled with the view of you usually makes for one seriously enjoyable experience. A blow job actually has nothing to do with blowing as the name suggests. It’s about licking, sucking and hand movements. So here are a few tips to take your technique to the next level:

Start by kissing down his chest slowly and seductively. Make sure he can see you too – this really helps with the overall effect and sensation. Run your hands over his crotch and breathe heavily enough that he can feel your breathe on his underwear and/or skin. If his pants and underwear are still on, slowly remove them with your hands (you can try do this with your teeth but it’s not always successful and may not be as sexy). Then, seductively run your hands up and down his chest and torso while you look at him. Tease him, but don’t overdo it… there is only so much enticing a guy can take before he wants the real deal! One of the most important parts of a blow job is lubrication, so make sure you either have some flavoured lube on hand to start off with, or that you use plenty of saliva to lube-up his shaft.

  1. Tongue ~ Think of how you would lick an ice-cream… with a flat, soft tongue right? Well using your tongue like this during a blow job will create a much nicer sensation for him than using a hard, pointed tongue (as it will during kissing and foreplay). Gentle, light licks on the head of his penis are a good way to start. Using your tongue on his frenulum (the bit of skin on the underside of the penis that connects the head to the shaft) is extra sensitive so tease him here with your tongue!
  2. Mouth ~ During a blow job your mouth does most of the work, so use it to its full potential and your full advantage to turn him on. Circle your mouth around his penis in an ‘O’ shape, with soft, gentle lips rather than firm pursed ones. As you move up and down his shaft, keep your tongue flat.Don’t ever use teeth during a blow job, except if you’ve safely established that he enjoys that sort of sensation. ‘Deep throating’ as it is known, takes a bit of practice but can have a very pleasurable effect during a blow job. Place one hand at the base of his penis and relax your mouth and throat. Then with lots of lubrication, slide your mouth all the way down his shaft as far as you can go. Do this very slowly and gently. If you find he is too big or you have a sensitive gag reflex then try it out slowly at first to see if you can manage. Deep throating is not the be all and end all of a blow job by any means, and does more visually for the guy than sensation wise, so don’t get concerned if you can’t do it.
  3. Hands ~ Using your hands during a blow job is one of the most important parts of the experience. It also gives your mouth and jaw a break if and when you need. As if you were giving him a hand job, make sure that your palm and fingers are well lubricated (either with saliva or flavoured lube) and run your hand up and down his shaft. You can either use the full hand or just your fingers – take your cue from his reactions. A fail safe trick while using your hands is to move it up and down in a swivelling motion, turning your hand back and forth as you move it up and down. You can try this with both hands if your mouth is tired, or use your non-dominant hand to either run it down his chest or gently cup his balls while you swivel with your dominant hand! If you need to give your mouth a break, use this opportunity to look at him or kiss around his groin area. Remember – every guy handles pressure on his crown jewels in very different ways, especially his balls. Always start off extremely gently and gauge what he likes and can handle before you get carried away.
  4. Noises ~ You may have heard that humming while giving head is a good technique, but don’t take that advice literally and hum a tune. A deep moan that originates from the back of your throat will not only give him auditory confirmation that you’re also enjoying it, but it will create a certain sensation down his shaft too. Making noises every now and then is a good idea, but don’t overdo it or he might think they’re fake.
  5. Spit or swallow ~ Whether you choose the former or the latter option, try and do it tactfully. If you prefer to spit, do so subtly into your hand and then get up and wash your hands. If you decide you want to swallow, some people prefer to wait until he has fully climaxed, and others will swallow continuously. If you don’t like the taste of his semen and you find it makes you gag, then rather spit. Some people don’t like semen in their mouth at all, so in this case continue to use your hands to stimulate him as he’s about to climax. No one should ever force you to do something that you are not comfortable with. Most men would rather get a blow job full stop, than fight with you over not wanting to swallow.

Some helpful tips

  • Getting him to climax will require some rhythm and consistent sensation so if he indicates to you that something feels good, go with it. Ask him to tell you before he’s about to orgasm so that you are not taken by surprise (this is basic blow job etiquette boys)! Don’t feel like you’re not good if he doesn’t cum – some men don’t like to climax during oral sex or can’t. You should also know that orgasm should never be an expectation of a blow job, and that this experience should be enjoyed by both partners, so take the pressure off and just go with it.
  • Speaking of blow job etiquette lads, pushing your partner’s head down to your crotch is not appealing, nor is thrusting hard while someone is going down on you. You can hurt the soft tissue in their mouth, so rather let them do the work. Also grooming your pubic region will probably let your partner enjoy the experience more too!
  • Pineapple changes the taste of semen so that it is ‘more pleasant’. One glass isn’t going to do very much, but chopping some up for him to take to work a few times a week will go a long way.
  • Exercise, diet and lifestyle (alcohol and smoking) all affect how hard a guy gets, as well as how he tastes. Cigarettes greatly affect the taste of semen so get him to quit with the incentive of more blow jobs!
  • You can add some variety into the mix by using different lubes and toys during the blow job. For example, vibrating toys and warming lubes will add to the sensation he experiences, and could be used during foreplay and into sex. Experiment and try different things, but never try and put anything into his penis (down his urethra!)
  • If you are with a new partner, don’t give them a blow job until you’ve both been tested for sexually transmitted diseases, and if you can’t resist, either use a flavoured condom and do not let him cum in your mouth. Cuts on your lips or his penis can transmit diseases, regardless how ‘clean’ he looks. Most STDs don’t have obvious symptoms, so he may not even now he has one.
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